On my second day of history class, the teacher presented us with a pop quiz. I thought to myself, "Crap. I only skimmed the chapter and have no idea what it was about." Instead, the 4 questions were personal questions so he could get to know us better.
1.) Why are you taking this history class?
2.) Why are you in college?
3.) What are your hobbies and avocations?
4.) Describe your dream history class.
Within these 4 questions, I discovered a lot about myself, and I realized that I often don't give myself time to clearly and mindfully reflect/think about myself. In fact, I spend a lot of my time thinking about other people and how I compare.
I think it would be a good idea to start asking and answering some questions for myself weekly.
What relationships have ended? But you can’t let go?
-Ex-boyfriend. I think he goes to my school and I may have seen him. We didn't have a good ending and for many years I told myself I didn't want or need him as a friend. I know things would be awkward if he were to approach me (6 years later) and I honestly don't miss him. I'm not convinced he'd be a good friend to have, and he'd probably make my life messier. I feel terrible having this negative weight on my conscience, but at the same time, my life feels cleaner this way. It's been 6 years and I have a new boyfriend that I love, but every day I fear running into you.
-Former Roomie. A whole continent divides us but I still miss you so much. I don't even know how to contact you anymore. I considered you my bestest friend ever. We haven't talked in years and perhaps you're too busy for me or run with a different crowd now but I'll always want to be your friend.
I never just VENT. I think it's unfair to make someone listen to your problems just for the sake of your need to vent. So if anyone has any advice as to how to deal with these, let me know!